The sliding doors of life refer to the choices we make every day. Ever seen the movie Sliding Doors? Life can change in an instant. Just like missing a train can change the course of your life. From dire choices like slamming on the gas and running that yellowish/turning red light to making well thought-out and informed decisions like starting your own business, or contracting out work etc. All of our decisions impact our future. Have you ever thought about how different your life would be had you made a different choice, a different decision?
I find myself reflecting on this from time to time. So many of the major events in my life happened quickly, some even were split second or leap of faith types of decisions.
Perhaps the biggest life changing question was asked by my friend Lynette. “Lauren, want to go to Annapolis for a party tonight?” Saying yes to that one question changed everything. Not even 3 months later I was engaged, waiting for my sailor to return from deployment, and planning a wedding. Within a year, I was married and moved across the country to San Diego. Of course I have no regrets with any of these choices. But, I do wonder, what would have happened had I not gone that night. Would fate have brought us together in some other way? Would I have moved into Manhattan and became a city girl like I originally planned on? Where would I be living right now? Would I have kids?
For every good decision, there are always a handful that I wish I had chose differently. When we first moved to CA I turned down a PR job offer b/c of the low salary, even though my gut was telling me it was a great opportunity. Unfortunately I let the money deter me from making a different choice. I suppose that’s the real issue as to why 12 years later it still doesn’t sit well with me. I wonder if I’d taken that job how it would have changed the course of my career. After taking a better paying position which I ended up hating, I promised myself money wouldn’t rule my decisions ever again. You live, you learn. The lesson wasn’t lost. But, the what-ifs still linger.
Life is full of sliding doors and endless opportunities. I like to think the decision we made to move to Delaware and start fresh, which was also made on a leap of faith, was exactly the right decision at exactly the right time. It’s easy to say that now, but it didn’t feel like it for the first year after the move. Only now is it all starting to come together in a way that I never would have imagined.
This entrepreneurial writing journey that I’m on, even with all the twists and turns is undoubtedly one of the most rewarding experiences of my life. Learning to put myself out there, promote myself and my work, while scary is also so satisfying.
I guess what I’m trying to say is, appreciate the sliding doors of life, the many choices you have, the decision making process, and the lessons learned from every experience. Whether it’s every day life choices, or business choices, follow your gut, and take advantage of everything this life has to offer. Because really, it’s all about the ride, baby! Enjoy it!